13 THINGS IN 13 YEARS|SELF LOVE SERIES

Heyyy

So this is a post that I’ve been wanting to do for a while, I’ve been doing a lot of self discovery lately and now felt like a good time to do a little advice post😊

1. FITTING IN ISN’T ALWAYS GOOD

As I get older, I’ve been noticing that a lot of people who I used to be close friends with are making choices that I don’t agree with. Being a teenager is hard and right now I’m at a point in my life where I really couldn’t care less about what other people are doing. Seeing a psychologist and getting medication and help for my depression and mood lability has really helped me see that life is worth living. Right now I’m too focused on improving myself and working towards my goals to be caught up in everybody else.Fitting in isn’t always the right thing.

2. TRUST YOUR GUT

I’m going to be straight with you and tell you that over the past 5 years I’ve gotten into a fair amount of trouble, but the truth is that I wouldn’t be where I am today if I hadn’t taken the chances that I did. Trust yourself.

3.PAVE YOUR OWN PATH

This is something I think almost everyone can relate to. You know what you want and everyone around you has their own ideas about what you should be doing with your life and it can be really difficult if you feel like you’re not being supported. If you have a dream or a goal then don’t let other people determine whether or not you try working towards it.

4. DON’T BE AFRAID TO REACH OUT

I still remember the first day I reached out to my favourite blogger and rolemodel Claire Cramphorn.  It was the first time I’d ever talked to another blogger and it was the best thing I ever could have done for myself. Not only did I do my first collab Girl Talk with Claire but I made a best friend in the process.Don’t be afraid to a) ask for help b) reach out to a blogger you admire or c) market/advertise your blog on social media.

5.MAKE YOURSELF YOUR EVERYTHING

Lately I’ve been thinking about how to some people my life would seem boring. I don’t go out much, I’ve somehow managed to become socially awkward and I prefer being alone. Most of my time is spent blogging, writing or taking photos in my room all whilst dancing to Lil Xan. But after 21 days of self discovery I’ve started loving myself again and I’ve decided to stop finding myself and finding acceptance in others and start loving and accepting myself first.

6.SELF NURTURE IS KEY

I recently learn that there is a big difference between self care and self nurturance. Self care refers to “… any necessary human regulatory function which is under individual control, deliberate and self-initiated.”In other words it’s pretty much hygiene. Self nurturance however refers to the act of loving and taking care of oneself. In short, self nurturance is self-love.  I used to put everybody’s needs above my own and I ended up stressed and unhappy because I had been way to involved with other people’s well-being that I had forgotten to nurture and love myself.

I’ll leave a list of self nurturance ideas below for those of you who are interested.

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7.YOU NEED TO KNOW WHEN TO THROW PUNCHES AND WHEN TO ROLL WITH THEM

So…I’m notorious for being dramatic,having hectic mood swings and anger management issues-a dangerous combination. I also have very strong views on EVERYTHING and I believe things should happen a certain way and 99.9% of the time my way is the best way. I’ve suffered through countless group projects and it’s taught me two things a) group projects suck and b) you need to know when to throw punches and when to roll with them. I am extremely quick to voice my opinion about everything and I genuinely fear for people who get on my bad side. Over the past five years of my life I’ve learnt just how consequential that can be. Over the past year or so I’ve been trying to find the balance between being opinionated and my mood swings, which hasn’t been easy as I get angered quickly but I’m slowly learning that sometimes it’s better to let karma handle things. But be warned if karma doesn’t handle you: I will.

8.PASSION PROJECTS CHANGE EVERYTHING

DID YOU KNOW?

Seventeen Wishes started out as a passion project

Seventeen Wishes started because I was bored. Seventeen Wishes is what it is today because my passion fuelled something so much bigger. Whether it be art, writing, athletics or even blogging finding something your passionate changes your life completely. Trying new things is incredibly important and so is taking a chance on your ‘passion project’ it could change the game completely.

9.GOALS.GOALS.GOALS

Goals are necessary for success and happiness. Ever since I was little I would make lists, to do lists, things that make me happy lists. You name it, I had a list for everything. Setting goals not only helped me to stay motivated but it’s kept me from straying off the path I’ve set for myself. There are times when I’ve seen people on Instagram doing things that I don’t agree with, and just to be clear I’m not saying this to be rude or mean in any way. But the question that has constantly bounced itself around my mind when seeing this is ‘How could this possibly be helping someone achieve their goals?’. Now I’m not saying there is anything wrong with having fun but to me when I see people doing certain things I can’t help but think… ‘Why?’

I strongly believe that if you know the goals you have for yourself you’re a lot less likely to stray off the path of achieving your goals plus there is nothing more satisfying than achieving a goal you’ve worked hard for.

10.EDUCATE YOURSELF

This is one of the most important and rewarding things you can do for yourself. I love learning. I love reading and watching TED TALKS and talking about things that need to be talked about and not shying away from controversy. I feel like it’s one of the main reasons I talk (not in a bad way) and feel older than I am constantly. I’ve been told since I was about 5 years old that I was incredibly mature.When I was 5 my teacher told my mum I had the reading ability of a 16 year old. And it’s literally an integrated part of me. I honestly believe that learning is such an amazing thing and I would not be the person I am today without it.

11.OWN THAT SH*T

I’m going brutally honest with you and tell you that this year my self confidence was at an all time low. I became  more depressed and I isolated myself from everyone and then I stopped talking, to tell you the truth the day I stopped talking was the day I realised that I truly had lost myself these past few months. And I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that it magically fixed itself overnight, it took therapy and medication and an unforgettable group of people to gain my confidence back. And you can bet your ass that it’s back for good. Nothing changes if you don’t believe in yourself.

NEWS FLASH!

You are a badass and it’s time for you to own that sh*t!

12.DANCE PARTIES ARE NECESSARY AND SO IS SPOILING YOURSELF

Congratulations on owning that sh*t. I’m proud of you now go dance to your favourite song because I’m proud. You deserve to spoil yourself every once in a while. Go on, turn that Lil Xan song up, we both know you want to.

13.SOMETIMES YOU FIND FAMILY IN THE PEOPLE YOU CALL YOUR FRIENDS

Truth be told, I’ve found family in the people I call my friends. I’ve found family in the blogging community and I’ve found family in my rolemodels. They’ve been there for me for everything and supported me and given me advice and I’m so grateful to have my friends and the people in the blogging community and I’m so grateful that I can call them family because they’ve always treated me like I was.

I hope you enjoyed this post because I had so much fun writing and I did take a dancing break which was extremely fun.

Love you 

“I no longer force things.

What flows, flows

What crashes,crashes

I only have space and energy

for the things that are meant for me”

xxxChips

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DEAR YOUNGER SELF

A letter to a little girl before she got help

Dear Chips

I know it’s hard. And I know you feel like giving up but my darling, don’t. I know that you feel like nobody understands you but there will come a time a few months from now when you get the help you need and the help you deserve.

A lot of people will complain about your behaviour and I know for a fact that you really don’t care about it and for that I am truly proud of you because those people are wrong.

And even though you’ve gotten into tons of trouble these past 5 years and you’ve been hurt a lot and you constantly feel like you’re drowning baby girl believe me when I say the things that were keeping you down all this time will not go away. You have the strength and you have always had the strength to fight them off,baby girl believe me when I say your pain will fuel the passion and the fire inside you.

You are the whole damn fire.You will always and always have been nothing but the whole damn fire.

Do not mistake the glint in my eyes for sparks. I am the whole damn fire

-Adria T Petrov

You will meet people who make you sad and you will meet people who make you happy. You will meet an amazing guy and he’s going to be your best friend for a very long time, you’re going to fall in love and it’s going to be one of the best things that’ll ever happen to you. It’s going to teach you how to be humble and patient and kind and have empathy it’s not going to be all smiles but it’s worth it in the end. You’re going to put a guy on a pedestal and after a few years you’re going to realise that you have to be your own everything and you’re going to make that happen.

You will fall in love again, this time with writing and art and that bond you have, I think, is unbreakable. You will become part of a community full of loving, kind people and you’ll get told that your depressing poetry should be in a book.

There will be bucketloads of drama and tears and confusing emotions and despite what people say the choices you make are not stupid or ruining your life in any way because even though you still have a long way to go,today is the happiest you’ve been in months.

You’ve been through so much but you’ve tried and still are today trying to be a rolemodel and despite everything and all the mistakes you make and will continue to make , you are an inspiration and not just to the amazing people who read Seventeen Wishes but to me as well.

To the lost little girl that was me. You are the badassiest,bravest, most beautifully fierce individual in the whole damn world.

Start believing it.

Something will grow through what you are going through and it will be you.

xxxChips

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I AM A BRAIN•POEM

I am a brain.

Sometimes you love me for my rational way of thinking

Or when you get an A on the math test you thought you would fail

What you don’t love is when I get in the way of your heart

Because then you know

You’re stuck on this emotional rollercoaster

And there’s no getting off ’till the end

You don’t really understand the way I work

Or why I make you think the things you think

Or why you make you do the things you do

I give you reason to think the things you think

And sometimes you mull it over and you can’t help but think

“What the…?”

But there’s a reason for my madness

My mystery

My expertise

In a field of matters you’re only just beginning

To understand

What is the labyrinth

Is it the pain you feel in life or the escape?

Is it straight and fast? Is that the way out of suffering?

I am a brain.

Complex

Pessimistic

Strange

Assiduous

Sophisticated

Opportunistic

Unrealistic

Brain.

The story behind the poem:

During a therapy session my psychologist placed numerous objects on a table in front of me and asked me to write something from the objects point of view. While writing this I wasn’t me, I was my brain and after I had written my poem, my psychologist asked if I thought this poem was related to my feelings in any way. I said no. She asked me to read it again, aloud and insert my name and personal pronouns where needed.

So I thought I would share this with you because I’ve realised that in the past few months I’ve been underestimating myself.A lot. And after reading this poem a second time I realised that even though my writing is far from perfect I am a talented writer. And writing this has made me realise that now it isn’t just something people say to be nice and it was never just something people said to be nice, it was something they genuinely believed. And now I believe it too.

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Stop stopping yourself.

xxxChips

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GIRLBOSS//GUYBOSS MARCH

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU🎵HAPPY BITRHDAY TO YOU🎵HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR CHLOEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HAPPY BIRHTDAY TO YOU🎵

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PS:Sorry this is so late.

Who else missed GIRLBOSS//GUYBOSS❤ As we all know(I think😂) every month (and I say every very lightly😂) I do a post called Girlboss/Guyboss.

Be sure to check out December’s Girlboss:She’s a friend of mine and a GIF extraordinare😉RACHEL VINCENT💜💜

Now let’s get into this post😄It’s March and we all know what that means:thinking back on the importance of scheduling your posts😂

This is the first Girlboss/Guyboss post of the year and it deserves someone incredibly special and extraordinary which is why February’s Girlboss is none other than CHLOE from Midnight Wanderer

So I’ve been binge-reading Chloe’s posts for a while and stalking looking at her Instagram😄And she writes LIKE YOU CANNOT IMAGINE, like,she was one of the first bloggers I followed and this was when my blog was just starting out and I look up to her so much❤But that’s enough of my endless chatter, here’s the stuff you actually want:

1.If you could jump into a pool of something what would it be?

sdokpkNDBHSDISIIJSOJSDODJODJDIDHUDDUDUDGYDYYYSYGSUSIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIaThis is an interesting one, the first thing that came into my head was a pool of glitter – because who doesn’t love that? Not sure how I’d feel about trying to get it all out of my hair afterwards though! I’d probably be a bit sparkly for a few days afterwards…

2.What inspired you to start blogging?

I was never really into the whole blogger community thing so there was never a specific person I looked at and thought wow, I want to start a blog because of them. I was more inspired by writers and people like Tia Henricks, Em Mercury etc. to create a platform where I could share my thoughts, feelings and interact with other like-minded people. So I’d say those were the people who inspired me to blog. In terms of what inspired me to blog, I wanted somewhere to share my thoughts, feelings and hopefully inspire and be inspired, I had a lot of things to say but nowhere to say it – there were a lot of stories I wanted to tell, a lot of memories I wanted to share and a lot of magic I wanted to create. I wanted to make something that I could share with others and show people like, look at what I did! I wanted to start something new and to start something for myself so, here I am.

3.What is the dumbest way you’ve been injured (try to top walking into a wall😂)? Honestly I’m probably the clumsiest person out there (I was walking backwards down a hill talking to some friends and fell straight into a dustbin once), but there are 2 things that came into mind when I read this question (thankfully they’re not recent events and only happened when I was younger) though I’m only going to mention one since the other is literally so bad, but basically I fell off the top of a slide and literally the whole of the left side of my face grazed off…meaning I was walking around for weeks where half of my face was just one big giant scab. Never have I wanted to walk round with a paper bag over my head so much.

4.What is something people would never guess about you?

Hmmm, maybe that I have a few tattoos & I’m basically obsessed with them & planning to get a load more?? I don’t look like your typical person who would have tattoos and people always seem a little surprised when they see them on me, so maybe that!

5.Finish the sentence: When I grow up I want to be_____________

HAPPY. Cliche I know, but if I’m happy then literally nothing else matters – I want to be free.

6.Who is your spirit animal?

Oh wow, the amount of times I’ve said this and suddenly I can’t think of a single person hahaha. If we’re talking about people then probably Chrissy Teigen, if we’re talking about actual animals then a sloth (or the dog with a blog – seems kinda fitting)…

7.Stranger Things or 13 Reasons Why??

Stranger Things forever!! It’s literally my favourite TV show in the world, those kids are just my favourite people on Earth I swear. As for 13 Reasons Why, I literally can’t stand it and think it’s the worst thing to have ever been aired on TV – I’m not even sure how it got to that stage!!

8.What are 5 things you couldn’t live without?

My dog My blog (ha)

My journal

My phone (to talk to everyone)

and my car, else I wouldn’t be able to get anywhere!

9.What is your biggest fear?

Watching someone I love slowly lose interest in me.

10.Would you rather have unlimited Tacos for life or unlimited Sushi for life😂?

I actually don’t like sushi and I’m not that much of a fan of tacos either, but I’ll have to go with the latter on this one!

11.Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

I’ll be 30 in 10 years (jeez) so my biggest goal is to have started a family by then – I literally can’t wait to be a Mum.

11.If one animal was made the size of an elephant which would be the scariest😥😥
😥 Some kind of insect because those things are literally the creepiest in minuscule size, let alone elephant size! I feel like a crab would be terrifying since some photos came out recently of literal killer crabs and they were HUGE. Honestly the freakiest things ever.
12.What would be the worst movie sequel ever made😂😂?
Can I say a sequel to 13 Reasons Why?

13.What cheesy song do you know by heart🎤 Ooh, I know lots! Probably anything S Club, though I’m definitely not afraid to admit I still love them!

14.Whats a weird but delicious food combination you’re obsessed with

Cucumber on toast…weird, I know.

15.This one has to do with food as well because… you know, FOOD ! What would be the worst ingredient to fill a burrito with?
Either fish or mushrooms – or both!! I literally couldn’t think of anything worse.

Firstly, I’d like to thank Chloe for doing this because legit, this wouldn’t have been possible without her.And then I’d like to thank Brad Pitt and Christian Bale, guys without you, none of this would’ve been possible😢JUST KIDDING!😂😂

Don’t forget to head over to Chloe’s blog for all her amazing content 💜💜

“Do something amazing”

xxxChips

GIRLBOSS PLAYLIST 2018|GRL POWER

Heyyy

So in case you haven’t noticed yet I luurrvvee music. Some of the songs on this playlist are quite old but that’s never stopped me from dancing wildly to them, lol, who even am I? Anyway without further ado:

GIRLBOSS PLAYLIST 2018

  • National Anthem-Lana Del Rey
  • You Don’t Own Me-Grace
  • Woman- Kesha
  • Say It To My Face-Madison Beer
  • New Rules- Dua Lipa
  • Don’t Play- Halsey
  • Do My Thang-Miley Cyrus
  • Feelings- Hayley Kiyoko
  • O.D.D- Hey Violet
  • Work- Iggy Azalea
  • Secret(Shh)- Charli XCX (Honestly not sure if this song fits the theme but it makes me feel badass so we’re putting it here anyway)
  • Needed Me- Rihanna
  • Dead- Madison Beer
  • Nasty Gal- Betty Davis
  • Hard Out Here- Lily Allen
  • You Already Know-Fergie
  • Sorry Not Sorry-Demi Lovato
  • BO$$-Fifth Harmony
  • Pretty Girls-Britney Spears
  • Bad Girls-M.I.A
  • Ready For It-Taylor Swift
  • Blow-Kesha
  • Potential Breakup Song-Aly and AJ
  • My Rules-Jadagrace

Music is what feelings sound like

xxxChips

AM I A FEMINIST?

Am I a feminist?

This is a question that’s been bothering me for a while because whilst I kind of consider myself to be one, others may not. And yes I realise this is from Urban Dictionary.

Also I just wanted to let you know that this is one of those posts where I rant and rant and ramble on til my brain feels like it’ll explode.

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What Is Feminism To Me?

Feminism is about girls women empowering one another! It’s about having equal rights, and being respected. It’s about society getting over the unrealistic expectations they set for women. It’s about stopping slut-shaming and gender-based violence, it’s about people getting the hell over all the stupid things they’ve been brainwashing females with for the past however many years.

I am so sick of women and young feeling that they need to fulfil this fantasy of the perfect woman. It’s DISGUSTING. Plain, and simple, putting it out there, it’s bloody disgusting. The idea that women are all supposed to fit into this mould of the perfect woman when each and every single one is us is different and gorgeous for being so.

I just wanna live in a world(and I realise how sadly unrealistic this sounds) where women and men have equal rights.

A world in which women aren’t treated like objects, and gender based violence isn’t a thing, a world where nobody gives a damn how on fleek your eyebrows and people care more about empowering one another.

If being a feminist is about supporting the later, then I guess I am. I have probably shared the quote below a million times but it is one of my absolute FAVES and I feel like its speaks volumes about the person I’m trying to be.

In 2018 I hope this becomes more of a reality:

Teach girls to worry less about fitting into glass slippers and more about shattering glass ceilings

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Do you agree or disagree with Urban dictionary’s top definition of feminism?Do you consider yourself a feminist?

xxxChips

 

PLOT BUNNIES,PHOTOGRAHY AND FLOPPING BLOGMAS

HEYYOOOO! ❤
Before I start full credit goes to Giphy for the amazing GIFs in this post
I’m not even going to bother with pretending to be all smiles and laughs at the moment because I am most definetly not, I am moody and emotional for no reason and I may or may not have punched a wall. Regardless, I have a lot to share with you and I haven’t blogged in a while so I’m hoping this post still has my usual spark.
So I’ve been following Monika from Destination Humanity for a while now and there are not enough words in the English language to describe the amount of stalking I do on her blog and just how amazing it is.

I’d always wanted to try photography but apart from my phone I’d never really had a proper camera and I never really had the motivation to do it until I started reading her blog. Honestly I wish I could tell you I saved my money and did chores around the house and finally bought a camera but really, I just used all the money I was given when I came to Australia. Originally I wanted to use half of the money for buying clothes and put the other half in my bank account but then I decided that getting a camera was an investment that I needed to make so I did it. THIS 13 YEAR OLD WEIRDO BOUGHT A CAMERA!!! I haven’t like, used it yet, because I bought it from my cousin and all of her photos need to be moved to her computer but like I FRIGGEN OWN A CAMERA. So I’m going to be using this camera for two things: a)Youtube and b)photography

PS:I just wanted you to know that I probably won’t be uploading anything on my Youtube channel until the end of January because I come back from Australia on the 20th and I leave for school (oh lol, I totally forgot to tell you, I’m going to boarding school for a year) the next day and like obviously I’ll need time to settle in (my way of saying I wanna make a few friends and it’ll only take me a day max, to finish packing) and then I need to figure out how to edit (lol, so unorganized).
So like a quick word on what I want to do with this whole photography thing.Pretty much, my plan is to make people think. Like, I want my photography to be a representation of how messy things can be. I just want it to ‘say’ not everything is picture perfect and it’s okay to be a little messy sometimes.
Lowkey hope that makes sense😂🙈
SECOND MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT!

I’M WRITING A BOOK!!!

I know what you’re thinking. DAYUUM GIRL, ABOUT TIME!
What you were really thinking:
 
But it probably won’t be finished for a very long time, honestly I love writing and I’ve cried several times over some of the sad bits in this novel so it’s emosh, and if I ever end up publishing it, I hope it pulls your heart out of your chest, stomps all over it and then tosses it away, in the best way possible of course😂I’ll be doing a “What the hell is it about” post soon so look out for that 😂
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And the third thing, this isn’t really an announcement, it’s more…me stating the facts.
Blogmas was a flopppp!
I skipped like ten days. I honestly didn’t notice just how many days behind I was, until Christmas was in 2 days.But I honestly had so much fun doing Blogmas, it was pretty stressful but I don’t really take life seriously😂Oh my word I sound like an idiot😂I meant to say, I’m very laidback, but oh well😂 Seriously though, I hope you enjoyed it!
Also I went to Cleland park yesterday and I got to feed a kangaroo!!
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Also I just wanted you to know that I honestly can’t be bothered to post on WordPress and Wix so I’m deleting Wix.  I should’ve done it sooner, once again, this website will be undergoing changes, permanent changes. I’m really sorry if I made you waste your time, but I’m thirteen-it’s gonna happen a lot. This was a mess of a post, but I wanted to keep you updated on what’s been going on for the past few days. I hope you all had a great Christmas, love you lots❤️❤️
xxxChips
“Sweat now. Shine later”

How to Set, Plan and Slay Your Goals in 2018

So I’m gonna soldier talk you through this.That’s my way of saying “Find yourself a notebook badasses of the world I’m about to teach you everything you need to know about goal-setting, planning in the correct way to achieve your goals and how to FINALLY ACHIEVE whatever it is that you have your heart set on for the upcoming new year.”

So the best way to explain this is to add in all the goals I have for myself. Also before we start here are a few things you are going to need:

Tools

  • Pens
  • Highlighters(optional)
  • Paper//Notebook
  • Ruler

Step 1:Create Categories

So before we even start thinking about what we want to achieve we’re gonna make 4-5 main categories which our goals will fall under.

-SCHOOL

-CAREER

-HEALTH

-SELF DEVELOPMENT

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I find that pretty much all my goals fit into the four categories but if you want to add more, feel free. Make sure that you don’t have too many categories or it can get very stressful and overwhelming.

Step 2:Brainstorm

What are your goals? These can be about anything. Do you wanna go to gym everyday or smile more? This is the time for you to figure out what all the random goals you want to achieve are.

Write them all down, no matter how weird they may seem.

New friends           80% average                              Workout everyday          Smile more

         Six pack       Stress-free                Write book                                        Inspire people

Step 3:Organise them into categories

*Make sure that you only have 3 or four goals under each category*

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School

  • New friends
  • 80% average
  • No stress

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Health

  • Workout everyday
  • Stay fit
  • Six pack
  • Go to the gym once a week

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Self- Development

  • Laugh louder+more often
  • Be happy
  • Read more self-help books
  • Meditate

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Career

Blogging

  • Post twice a week
  • Inspire young girls to live life the way they want and encourage them to shatter all the glass ceilings they want.
  • Teach girls less about fitting into glass slippers and more about shattering glass ceilings-UNKOWN

  • Make blogger friends

YouTube

  • Start the damn thing hehe
  • Post once a week
  • Have fun
  • Inspire 13 year old girls going through ish and people of other ages obvi

Okay, so now that  you’ve created the goals you want to achieve, you need a step-by-step action plan in order to achieve them.

So what you’re gonna do is look at each category, let’s start with School.You’ll notice how the bullet points fit into one another.If I’m getting good grades and have friends then I would be stress free. Let’s say I am stressed though, being around friends is always a great way to relieve stress.

Now we’re gonna make a few little notes under each goal about what you need to do to achieve the goal.If you feel the need to go into more detail about what you need to do for this goal to become an actuality then I would use a page per goal.

~The notes under the goal will be about all the little things you need to do, be it changing habits, or making new ones.

EXAMPLE

School Goals-Plan

80% Average

—Take notes in class (so I keep up and don’t have to stress at the end of each term) Cough cough, now where have I heard the word stress before?Take note of the sarcasm.

—Pay attention in class

—Keep up-to-date on homework

New Friends

—Be friendly

—Don’t gossip

—Reach out to people you wanna be friends with

Stress-Free

—Meditate

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YAYY!!I’m so proud of you for even coming this far.The steps you’ve taken so far will have made sure the goals you’re setting are valid and things you really want for yourself; not just something you thought of in the spur of the moment.You’ve made it this far:You know exactly what it is that you want, you have a plan and an excellent post bursting full of any motivation you lack.You have all the tools you could possibly need, so what are you waiting for?

Before you leave I want to leave a few tips to help you stay ontrack with your goals.

  1. BE SPECIFIC ABOUT YOUR GOALS-what exactly do you want?how will you get there?
  2. TRY NOT TO INCLUDE TOO MANY NUMBERS-you are not a number.your happiness should not depend on a number
  3. SET REMINDERS ON YOUR PHONE ABOUT YOUR GOALS-the number of times I’ve forgotten about goals #the struggle
  4. REVIEW YOUR GOALS EVERY TWO WEEKS-this is to make sure you’re making progress with your goals regularly
  5. DON’T FEEL DOWN IF YOU DON’T ACHIEVE A GOAL-knowing that you worked hard to get there is all that matters

 

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What are your goals for 2018?What goals did you achieve this year?What keeps you ontrack with your goals?

~I WILL MAKE YOU BELIEVE YOU ARE LOVELY~

xxxChips

Everything I’m Saying Goodbye To At The End Of 2017

Hey everyone

I hope you’re all having an amazing day

So today’s post is about being happy and how you can make 2018 a happier year for you. These are a few things that I’m saying bye to because I want to be a happier person, and I think that hearing this and thinking about how it relates to you might help you aswell.

-Forget expectations

I’ve spent the past two years listening. Listening to people go on and on about how I’m too ‘unladylike’; listening to people say untrue things about me and judging me.Nobody has ever been afraid to share their opinions about me, please don’t pity me because I really don’t care about what they think😂The hardest thing about growing up is that you’re supposed to figure out who you are. It’s hard enough with social media but even harder when everyone wants to share their own peanut gallery of thoughts about your life.Tbh I’ve never cared about expectations so why would I start now?

-Friends

Recently I said bye to one of my best friends.And no he isn’t dead.We’ve been friends for roughly two years now.We told each other everything, he was the first person to message me after a panic attack and make sure I was okay and the only person I wanted to rant about Shooter with.He was the first guy I genuinely cared about.When we decided it was better if weren’t friend a anymore it kinda broke me.Our friendship had been and always will be one of the best thing that ever happened to me and even though I wasn’t ready to say goodbye.It was time. I still miss him. I mean if you were trying not to have a panic attack while listening to Marvin’s Room you’d understand that better.What I’m trying to remember through all of this is that even though I’ve had to say goodbye to friends I love, true friendships will always withstand time and distance.

As for the fake ones? I handled them a loooong time ago.

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-Stop Holding On To The Past

It’s never easy to let go of the past because it’s what makes you you.You need to understand that whatever happened, whatever memory you’re trying to hold on to, is always gonna be there. Holding on to the past is only stopping you from living in the moment, from creating more amazing memories that you’re gonna look back on and smile about.
Goodbye past, I’ll be sure to visit soon.

-Comparison

You will always live in someone’s shadow if you constantly compare yourself to others. You are your own person. What good will pointing out how Sarah has longer, better looking eyelashes and higher cheekbones do?The first step to getting rid of comparison in your life is self-acceptance.Once you’re more than comfortable in your own skin you can truly start living the girl boss life you want for yourself.
Goodbye comparison you sure weren’t fun and you sure as hell won’t be missed.

-Fearing judgement

Fear can prevent you doing a lot of amazing things. In You Are A Badass, Jen refers to fear as the Big Snooze or BS for short.She’s completely right, fear is pressing the snooze button on all your dreams, It’s stopping you from achieving everything you have ever wanted to achieve.So I’m gonna challenge you to challenge one of your fears in 2018, do something you’ve never done before because you were scared.

 

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“And so together they built a life they loved”
xxxChips

 

END OF YEAR GOALS+MOTIVATION

The year is ending.

It’s sorta bittersweet coz I start high school next year. And you know what that means:leaving friends, friendships ending, saying good riddance to teachers I didn’t like, making new friends, one year of boarding school, change. And all the other stuff that comes with starting high school.

But I figure, it ain’t over yet. There’s still a bunch of crazy stuff I wanna do with my friends and I’m still setting goals so, today I’m sharing my goals with you!

Okay, so first I want to share my long term goal with you:

LONG TERM GOAL:

DREAM JOB: MENTAL HEALTH SPECIALIST

Okay, so I’m the typical teen who has no idea what they want to do with their life 99.9% of the time. Recently tho, I randomly decided that this was something I wanted to do when I grow up (also is weird that I used past and future tense in that sentence).

Anyway, I was researching the subjects you need to do well in, if that’s what you wanna do and pretty much every single subject I hate and suck at(btw)  was on the list so I gotta up my game!

Legit, that is my only motivation for math.

THE MOTIVATION

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OTHER GOALS

SCHOOL RELATED:

  • 90% IN AT LEAST ONE EXAM

  • +70% IN MATH JUST SO I CAN WIPE THE SMILE OFF…. FACE

  • +80 IN NS

  • +2 A’S

  • STAY MOTIVATED THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE EXAM SEASON

 

NON-SCHOOL RELATED

  • Sleep
  • Sleep
  • Sleep
  • Be more active on social media
  • 400 followers on Insta(6 away)
  • BLOGMAS BABBAYYY!!!
  • Start a Youtube Channel
  • Finish my journal
  • Make more blogger friends

Oh darling,

It’s true

Beautiful things 

Have dents and scratches too

xxxChips

ps:Photo by Andrew Peloso on Unsplash