it’s not over ’till I say so

This is it. The post I didn’t think I would ever write, but I guess this is it. Firstly, I want to say thank you to each and every single one of you. You have been the reason I didn’t give up and you have made me smile and laugh and cry, because I have never felt so loved. Then, I want to say this:I love you. You can message me anytime, because I’ll always be there for you and each and every single one of you means the world to me. I cannot even begin to describe how much you have made my life better, how you have given me a reason to keep going when I wanted to give up completely, how every every moment and memory with each and every single one of you will be forever ingrained in my heart.

This isn’t a goodbye post.

It’s a… I’ll probably write on here again but I’m undecided because I’m an apricot and I love all of you endlessly post.

I’ll see you soon. This isn’t the end for us.

xxxChips

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13 THINGS IN 13 YEARS|SELF LOVE SERIES

Heyyy

So this is a post that I’ve been wanting to do for a while, I’ve been doing a lot of self discovery lately and now felt like a good time to do a little advice post😊

1. FITTING IN ISN’T ALWAYS GOOD

As I get older, I’ve been noticing that a lot of people who I used to be close friends with are making choices that I don’t agree with. Being a teenager is hard and right now I’m at a point in my life where I really couldn’t care less about what other people are doing. Seeing a psychologist and getting medication and help for my depression and mood lability has really helped me see that life is worth living. Right now I’m too focused on improving myself and working towards my goals to be caught up in everybody else.Fitting in isn’t always the right thing.

2. TRUST YOUR GUT

I’m going to be straight with you and tell you that over the past 5 years I’ve gotten into a fair amount of trouble, but the truth is that I wouldn’t be where I am today if I hadn’t taken the chances that I did. Trust yourself.

3.PAVE YOUR OWN PATH

This is something I think almost everyone can relate to. You know what you want and everyone around you has their own ideas about what you should be doing with your life and it can be really difficult if you feel like you’re not being supported. If you have a dream or a goal then don’t let other people determine whether or not you try working towards it.

4. DON’T BE AFRAID TO REACH OUT

I still remember the first day I reached out to my favourite blogger and rolemodel Claire Cramphorn.  It was the first time I’d ever talked to another blogger and it was the best thing I ever could have done for myself. Not only did I do my first collab Girl Talk with Claire but I made a best friend in the process.Don’t be afraid to a) ask for help b) reach out to a blogger you admire or c) market/advertise your blog on social media.

5.MAKE YOURSELF YOUR EVERYTHING

Lately I’ve been thinking about how to some people my life would seem boring. I don’t go out much, I’ve somehow managed to become socially awkward and I prefer being alone. Most of my time is spent blogging, writing or taking photos in my room all whilst dancing to Lil Xan. But after 21 days of self discovery I’ve started loving myself again and I’ve decided to stop finding myself and finding acceptance in others and start loving and accepting myself first.

6.SELF NURTURE IS KEY

I recently learn that there is a big difference between self care and self nurturance. Self care refers to “… any necessary human regulatory function which is under individual control, deliberate and self-initiated.”In other words it’s pretty much hygiene. Self nurturance however refers to the act of loving and taking care of oneself. In short, self nurturance is self-love.  I used to put everybody’s needs above my own and I ended up stressed and unhappy because I had been way to involved with other people’s well-being that I had forgotten to nurture and love myself.

I’ll leave a list of self nurturance ideas below for those of you who are interested.

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7.YOU NEED TO KNOW WHEN TO THROW PUNCHES AND WHEN TO ROLL WITH THEM

So…I’m notorious for being dramatic,having hectic mood swings and anger management issues-a dangerous combination. I also have very strong views on EVERYTHING and I believe things should happen a certain way and 99.9% of the time my way is the best way. I’ve suffered through countless group projects and it’s taught me two things a) group projects suck and b) you need to know when to throw punches and when to roll with them. I am extremely quick to voice my opinion about everything and I genuinely fear for people who get on my bad side. Over the past five years of my life I’ve learnt just how consequential that can be. Over the past year or so I’ve been trying to find the balance between being opinionated and my mood swings, which hasn’t been easy as I get angered quickly but I’m slowly learning that sometimes it’s better to let karma handle things. But be warned if karma doesn’t handle you: I will.

8.PASSION PROJECTS CHANGE EVERYTHING

DID YOU KNOW?

Seventeen Wishes started out as a passion project

Seventeen Wishes started because I was bored. Seventeen Wishes is what it is today because my passion fuelled something so much bigger. Whether it be art, writing, athletics or even blogging finding something your passionate changes your life completely. Trying new things is incredibly important and so is taking a chance on your ‘passion project’ it could change the game completely.

9.GOALS.GOALS.GOALS

Goals are necessary for success and happiness. Ever since I was little I would make lists, to do lists, things that make me happy lists. You name it, I had a list for everything. Setting goals not only helped me to stay motivated but it’s kept me from straying off the path I’ve set for myself. There are times when I’ve seen people on Instagram doing things that I don’t agree with, and just to be clear I’m not saying this to be rude or mean in any way. But the question that has constantly bounced itself around my mind when seeing this is ‘How could this possibly be helping someone achieve their goals?’. Now I’m not saying there is anything wrong with having fun but to me when I see people doing certain things I can’t help but think… ‘Why?’

I strongly believe that if you know the goals you have for yourself you’re a lot less likely to stray off the path of achieving your goals plus there is nothing more satisfying than achieving a goal you’ve worked hard for.

10.EDUCATE YOURSELF

This is one of the most important and rewarding things you can do for yourself. I love learning. I love reading and watching TED TALKS and talking about things that need to be talked about and not shying away from controversy. I feel like it’s one of the main reasons I talk (not in a bad way) and feel older than I am constantly. I’ve been told since I was about 5 years old that I was incredibly mature.When I was 5 my teacher told my mum I had the reading ability of a 16 year old. And it’s literally an integrated part of me. I honestly believe that learning is such an amazing thing and I would not be the person I am today without it.

11.OWN EVERYTHING YOU DO

I’m going brutally honest with you and tell you that this year my self confidence was at an all time low. I became  more depressed and I isolated myself from everyone and then I stopped talking, to tell you the truth the day I stopped talking was the day I realised that I truly had lost myself these past few months. And I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that it magically fixed itself overnight, it took therapy and medication and an unforgettable group of people to gain my confidence back. And you can bet your ass that it’s back for good. Nothing changes if you don’t believe in yourself.

12.DANCE PARTIES ARE NECESSARY AND SO IS SPOILING YOURSELF

Congratulations on owning everything you do. I’m proud of you now go dance to your favourite song because I’m proud. You deserve to spoil yourself every once in a while. Go on, turn that Lil Xan song up, we both know you want to.

13.SOMETIMES YOU FIND FAMILY IN THE PEOPLE YOU CALL YOUR FRIENDS

Truth be told, I’ve found family in the people I call my friends. I’ve found family in the blogging community and I’ve found family in my rolemodels. They’ve been there for me for everything and supported me and given me advice and I’m so grateful to have my friends and the people in the blogging community and I’m so grateful that I can call them family because they’ve always treated me like I was.

I hope you enjoyed this post because I had so much fun writing and I did take a dancing break which was extremely fun.

Love you 

“I no longer force things.

What flows, flows

What crashes,crashes

I only have space and energy

for the things that are meant for me”

xxxChips

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PLOT BUNNIES,PHOTOGRAHY AND FLOPPING BLOGMAS

HEYYOOOO! ❤
Before I start full credit goes to Giphy for the amazing GIFs in this post
I’m not even going to bother with pretending to be all smiles and laughs at the moment because I am most definetly not, I am moody and emotional for no reason and I may or may not have punched a wall. Regardless, I have a lot to share with you and I haven’t blogged in a while so I’m hoping this post still has my usual spark.
So I’ve been following Monika from Destination Humanity for a while now and there are not enough words in the English language to describe the amount of stalking I do on her blog and just how amazing it is.

I’d always wanted to try photography but apart from my phone I’d never really had a proper camera and I never really had the motivation to do it until I started reading her blog. Honestly I wish I could tell you I saved my money and did chores around the house and finally bought a camera but really, I just used all the money I was given when I came to Australia. Originally I wanted to use half of the money for buying clothes and put the other half in my bank account but then I decided that getting a camera was an investment that I needed to make so I did it. THIS 13 YEAR OLD WEIRDO BOUGHT A CAMERA!!! I haven’t like, used it yet, because I bought it from my cousin and all of her photos need to be moved to her computer but like I FRIGGEN OWN A CAMERA. So I’m going to be using this camera for two things: a)Youtube and b)photography

PS:I just wanted you to know that I probably won’t be uploading anything on my Youtube channel until the end of January because I come back from Australia on the 20th and I leave for school (oh lol, I totally forgot to tell you, I’m going to boarding school for a year) the next day and like obviously I’ll need time to settle in (my way of saying I wanna make a few friends and it’ll only take me a day max, to finish packing) and then I need to figure out how to edit (lol, so unorganized).
So like a quick word on what I want to do with this whole photography thing.Pretty much, my plan is to make people think. Like, I want my photography to be a representation of how messy things can be. I just want it to ‘say’ not everything is picture perfect and it’s okay to be a little messy sometimes.
Lowkey hope that makes sense😂🙈
SECOND MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT!

I’M WRITING A BOOK!!!

I know what you’re thinking. DAYUUM GIRL, ABOUT TIME!
What you were really thinking:
 
But it probably won’t be finished for a very long time, honestly I love writing and I’ve cried several times over some of the sad bits in this novel so it’s emosh, and if I ever end up publishing it, I hope it pulls your heart out of your chest, stomps all over it and then tosses it away, in the best way possible of course😂I’ll be doing a “What the hell is it about” post soon so look out for that 😂
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And the third thing, this isn’t really an announcement, it’s more…me stating the facts.
Blogmas was a flopppp!
I skipped like ten days. I honestly didn’t notice just how many days behind I was, until Christmas was in 2 days.But I honestly had so much fun doing Blogmas, it was pretty stressful but I don’t really take life seriously😂Oh my word I sound like an idiot😂I meant to say, I’m very laidback, but oh well😂 Seriously though, I hope you enjoyed it!
Also I went to Cleland park yesterday and I got to feed a kangaroo!!
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Also I just wanted you to know that I honestly can’t be bothered to post on WordPress and Wix so I’m deleting Wix.  I should’ve done it sooner, once again, this website will be undergoing changes, permanent changes. I’m really sorry if I made you waste your time, but I’m thirteen-it’s gonna happen a lot. This was a mess of a post, but I wanted to keep you updated on what’s been going on for the past few days. I hope you all had a great Christmas, love you lots❤️❤️
xxxChips
“Sweat now. Shine later”

Everything I’m Saying Goodbye To At The End Of 2017

Hey everyone

I hope you’re all having an amazing day

So today’s post is about being happy and how you can make 2018 a happier year for you. These are a few things that I’m saying bye to because I want to be a happier person, and I think that hearing this and thinking about how it relates to you might help you aswell.

-Forget expectations

I’ve spent the past two years listening. Listening to people go on and on about how I’m too ‘unladylike’; listening to people say untrue things about me and judging me.Nobody has ever been afraid to share their opinions about me, please don’t pity me because I really don’t care about what they think😂The hardest thing about growing up is that you’re supposed to figure out who you are. It’s hard enough with social media but even harder when everyone wants to share their own peanut gallery of thoughts about your life.Tbh I’ve never cared about expectations so why would I start now?

-Friends

Recently I said bye to one of my best friends.And no he isn’t dead.We’ve been friends for roughly two years now.We told each other everything, he was the first person to message me after a panic attack and make sure I was okay and the only person I wanted to rant about Shooter with.He was the first guy I genuinely cared about.When we decided it was better if weren’t friend a anymore it kinda broke me.Our friendship had been and always will be one of the best thing that ever happened to me and even though I wasn’t ready to say goodbye.It was time. I still miss him. I mean if you were trying not to have a panic attack while listening to Marvin’s Room you’d understand that better.What I’m trying to remember through all of this is that even though I’ve had to say goodbye to friends I love, true friendships will always withstand time and distance.

As for the fake ones? I handled them a loooong time ago.

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-Stop Holding On To The Past

It’s never easy to let go of the past because it’s what makes you you.You need to understand that whatever happened, whatever memory you’re trying to hold on to, is always gonna be there. Holding on to the past is only stopping you from living in the moment, from creating more amazing memories that you’re gonna look back on and smile about.
Goodbye past, I’ll be sure to visit soon.

-Comparison

You will always live in someone’s shadow if you constantly compare yourself to others. You are your own person. What good will pointing out how Sarah has longer, better looking eyelashes and higher cheekbones do?The first step to getting rid of comparison in your life is self-acceptance.Once you’re more than comfortable in your own skin you can truly start living the girl boss life you want for yourself.
Goodbye comparison you sure weren’t fun and you sure as hell won’t be missed.

-Fearing judgement

Fear can prevent you doing a lot of amazing things. In You Are A Badass, Jen refers to fear as the Big Snooze or BS for short.She’s completely right, fear is pressing the snooze button on all your dreams, It’s stopping you from achieving everything you have ever wanted to achieve.So I’m gonna challenge you to challenge one of your fears in 2018, do something you’ve never done before because you were scared.

 

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“And so together they built a life they loved”
xxxChips

 

Lately I’ve Been Thinking…

Okay so recently I was reading this post by Alexandra Jane. And this was a very eye-opening post for me because I related to a lot of the things she talked about. I started Seventeen Wishes because I wanted to meet new people,I wanted to share my thoughts and opinions and have people share their thoughts and feeling with me:I wanted people to interact with.

Lately there’s been something off about Seventeen Wishes and tbh, I hate it.2018 is a new year, another chance for me to redefine what I want for this blog and for me,because this blog is a part of me as much as anything else in my life.


I want to follow people who’s posts I love reading.When I was starting this blog I followed everyone who followed me back regardless of whether or not I liked their content,because I genuinely thought it was just being nice.I’m starting to understand that I would much rather follow people whose posts I like and give them amazing feedback because I mean it.I don’t feel obligated to follow people because they follow me anymore, I spent the day unfollowing a few people because:they deserve better.They deserves followers who engage with them,love their content,smile with them,follow their journey.With the number of people I was following before I couldn’t do that.It was stressful.Now I can, and knowing that despite the fact I had to leave some bloggers on their journey temporarily I still hope for the best for them makes me feel better.


I want to post things you guys actually want to read😂Don’t get me wrong this blog is most definitely for me but I also wanna have stuff that actually interests you😂

You guys really seem to like the posts where I talk about feminism which leads to me rambling about being vegetarian😂But at the end of the day as long as it’s something I’m not clueless about *coughs and mutters makeup*


I want to learn how to take hella cute photos😂I currently have the iPhone 6 and the camera quality on here is amazing which is why I’m gonna try my best to learn more about photography so I can produce better quality photos for you guys😊Like if you guys follow Monika from Destination Humanity you know exactly what I’m talking about when I mean great photos😂SHE SLAYSS MY LIFE😂❤️❤️❤️❤️


I want a theme.A theme that won’t change for a very very long time. I’ve changed my name and my themes several times and even though I’m happy with my blog name☺️I can’t help feeling like my theme is too young and child like but still somewhat perfect for me😂Like, I want a more mature look because despite my savagery(😂😂) I am quite mature for my age but the savage side of me…she needs the childish vibes you know😂😉Any suggestions??


I would also like to follow more bloggers on Instagram and Twitter and Pinterest❤️❤️😂There’s mine,if you’re interested💛

And lastly,even though I’m not entirely sure how:I want to help out new bloggers.I know how scary it can be starting a new blog but for me it was really exciting.Getting 5 likes when I was starting out made me feel INCREDIBLE so I wanna help out new bloggers and maybe that can be my way of giving back to the blogosphere??

Any advice???Any tips,comments or thoughts?Let me know❤️❤️

Come get lost with me

xxxChips💙

MY GOALS FOR 2018|Blogging|School

Heyyyy guys💛

As you know I suck at intros 😂😂 so let’s get right into it, yeah?

Blogging:300 followers

Right now, I have 123 but 300 is totally achievable. If I went from a clueless blogger to a semi-clueless blogger:I can do anything 😂

  • 5 collabs throughout the year

As you know, 2017 was my first year of blogging and I had the opportunity to collab with so many amazing bloggers and just utterly amazing people. It was honestly so much fun, so I cannot wait to do it all again!

  • Share some of the poems I’ve written+artwork

I’ve been wanting to do this for a very long time now, but some of my poems are very…real to say the least. Like I honestly don’t know how to describe it, but I only ever write poems when I’m sad, so my poems aren’t exactly the most…lighthearted.I started getting into drawing this time, last year and I love drawing. I don’t have many “drawings” because I prefer to doodle but like my poems I only doodle when I’m sad.

  • Resume Girlboss//Guyboss

I had so much fun getting to know more about all the amazing bloggers in the blogging community, there are so many more people I’d like to get to know better and I’m sure that you would too (winky face)

School:80% average

I’ve wanted an 80% average since grade 5 and don’t get me wrong I’ve come pretty close, but I still haven’t achieved it. Like I can get a 91% in History but not an 80%average??

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  • Athletics//Cross-Country team

If you guys have been part of the fam for a while now, you know I work hard to like, be fit and like I tried out for the athletics team for the first time this year and even though I didn’t make it, I did cross country which was a blast! I am honestly so glad I didn’t make the athletics team but 2018’s a new year, so who knows what’ll happen! It’s honestly the funniest thing because when people see this app on my phone they assume I’m tryna lose weight😂like nahh the app is free😂😂

  • Participate! I’m being completely honest and maybe this is just completely abnormal to say but:I don’t like people. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m a people person and I can talk for days about the most random things with strangers and even best friends but I don’t like people. Even reading it sounds weird😂 but like I’d much rather be at home alone having like a productive day with nobody in a 6km radius of me.Let me know if that makes sense to you in the comments and this has nothing to do with me being an ambivert btw😂😂

Socials:Twitter-250 followers

Recently, I’ve been getting like a flood of followers completely random btw which is super nice!! And I’ve been making more of an effort to be more ‘active’ on Twitter, so it’s really cool to see my ‘hard work’ paying off.

  • Instagram

I really wanna follow more bloggers on Insta so if you could follow me it makes it so much easier to find you than asking you to leave a link/name down below😂Lol do you think we can get it to 450 before March 1st??❤️

  • Snapchat-Not that I really care or anything because I just use Snapchat to be random with my friends but it would be really nice to get to know you guys better and also its a great way for me to embarrass myself more😄

xxxChips
Stop doubting
start living🐬

THE TIMES THEY ARE A CHANGIN’ *PART TWO*

 Welcome to Seventeen Wishes!

I did a post a while back about all the changes that were happening this was after I decided to change the name to Seventeen Wishes and changing my URL was one of the first things I talked about. And I did! I changed my header, I designed my header! And I wanted to change my URL and now I have and it feels great! I feel like this year although school has been very draining and I’m sick has been my year of awesomeness! I’ve been trying new things, being more organised, sticking to a planner, working hard,blogging( and it seems crazy to think I only started blogging this year because I feel as if I’ve been doing this my whole life) it’s been great! I just wanted to let you guys know all this because I’ve been gong on about it for a bit and I’m really proud of what I’ve produced! I think this is the last or one of the last things I’ll change, I want to rewrite my about me page and jazz that up a little! Thank you so much for all the support, you guys are the best!

You are what you seek

xxxChips 

 

It’s a work in progress

Okay, I need to clear a few things up. So as I told you guys before my blog is going through some changes.

Lol, my blog is going through puberty😂😂

Which is why if you look at the title Seventeen Wishes and the URL sweeterthanhope.wordpress.com you’ll notice they’re different. If you search this you can find my blog, Seventeen Wishes. Hopefully, everything will work itself out and next month or so you’ll be able to check out Seventeenwishes.com!

XxxChips